Friday, January 18, 2013

Our children deserve better

Deuteronomy 11:19
Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit in your house and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

Deuteronomy 4:9
Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them slip from your heart as long as you live.  Teach them to your children and to their children after them.

Recently, I was talking with a friend about her visit with her sister and her family over the Christmas holidays.  She told me a story that has cut me to the core.

My friend's niece is 17.  While my friend was sitting with her niece, the niece texted a boy she likes.  Her text read, "Wasup" (What's up for us oldies).  The boy texted her back, "My d***".  My friend was horrified that a boy would text that to her niece.  She immediately told her niece everything wrong with the text.

Her niece told her it was no big deal and that is just the way kids talk to each other these days.

Upset, she went to her sister and conveyed what had just happened.  Her sister told her the same thing her niece's just the way kids talk these days.

My friend was still upset about the text and reaction to it when she went home.  She has a friend who is a school counselor and she asked her about the incident.  

The school counselor told her the same exact thing her sister and niece's just the way kids talk these days.


That is not the way respectable, God fearing people, regardless of age, should be talking.  AND....that is not the way a person is to be treated.

There are so many things wrong with this...
  1.  Where is the respect for women and self?
  2. Why does a parent think a child should be talked to this way?
  3. Why does a school counselor see this as ok?
  4. Where is God in all of this?
I could write a post a mile long on why this is harmful to our children and our society.  I won't though.

I will say that as parents, we must teach our children to live for God in everything they do.  We must teach them that respecting others and ourselves involves our speech, actions, and behaviors.

If my daughter was ever talked to this way I would be horrified.  I wouldn't be able to get to the boy fast enough because my husband would beat me to him.  My daughter knows how a man is to behave....she sees her daddy.

If I ever heard my sons speak (or text) in this fashion, they would lose every privilege ever given to them.  They would be escorted by me and my husband to the girl's home and apologize not only to her, but her parents as well.

Our children deserve better.  They deserve to know their worth in Christ Jesus.  

Ok, I'm jumping off of my soapbox now.  Here are some pictures from our week that I just love...

 I walked into Luke's room and he was playing with lego figures.  This picture melts my heart because his hands are still so little. He is still so young and I adore him.
 Be still my heart.  Emily and her daddy saying goodnight.

 Luke really wanted these basketball socks and I surprised him with them.  He was so excited!  He didn't want to wear his basketball shoes to play outside though...they may get messed up he said.
 Emily is in the air right after a volleyball serve.

Luke begged me to take a picture or a two of him dribbling the basketball between his legs.  Emily photo bombed it.  He had no idea!

Enjoy your weekend!!  Much love to everyone...xoxo