Friday, October 31, 2014

The truth about sex

This topic has been on my heart for a very long time.  When I say long time, I mean years.

***Before I get started, please hear me when I say that I am in no way condemning anyone.  I have been in the pit of sexual sins.  I could write the book on it.  My heart aches for men and women-boys and girls-who are trapped in sexual sin.  I wish I could look each of you in the eyes and tell you that you matter.  My heart aches for anyone who doesn't see the pure beauty in real sex.  Sex between a husband and a wife.***

Have you noticed that sex is everywhere? 

It is on magazine covers.  Just this week at the grocery store, a magazine claimed they had discovered the secret to great sex.  This statement was posted next to a woman who had her shirt fully unbuttoned with half of her breasts showing.

Many TV shows display men and women rolling around in bed together engaged in sexual activity.  Most of these characters are not even married.  They are just hooking up.

Sex is in books, movies, commercials, name it and it's probably there.

Sex is everywhere - except where it should be.

The truth is that God created sex.  Sex is supposed to be a good thing.  When sex is part of a healthy marriage, it brings spouses closer together.  They share an intimate experience that no one else truly knows about.  God created sex to be pleasurable and fun.  He created it as a way for spouses to show they truly trust and love each other.  God created sex in order that humans could multiply and fill the earth.  These are all wonderful things with no shame attached to them.

The problem is that sex is no longer between spouses only.  Even when there is a marriage, sex is often found outside the marriage.  I'm not just talking affairs.  Although, that is a huge problem in our society.  Sex is in the "entertainment" that we choose to engage in.  Society has become so used to seeing sex everywhere that people have become immune to the sacredness of it.

Pornography is a HUGE problem.  Nothing ever good comes out of it.  Many people think pornography is only x rated movies. 

Let me share with you the full definition of pornography...

1.  the depiction of erotic behavior (as in pictures or writing) intended to cause sexual excitement

2.  material (as books or a photograph) that depicts erotic behavior and is intended to cause sexual excitement

3.  the depiction of acts in a sensational manner so as to arouse a quick intense emotional reaction

***This definition is taken straight from the Merriam-Webster Dictionary.  I did not add nor delete any part of the definition.***

So you see, it is not just  x rated movies.  Pornography is in the TV shows, movies, and books we choose for "entertainment".

Someone actually told me onetime that she recently read a popular book that was filled with sex.  She claimed it was fantastic.  She then stopped,  embarrassed, and said, "you probably shouldn't read it".  Why?  Because I'm a loud mouthed Christian?  God's standards apply to all of His children.  Not just the ones who choose to stand up and speak about them.

Here is a staggering fact - Pornography generates $10-14 BILLION annually.  Can you imagine taking that money and feeding hungry people around the world??  That money could fill so many bellies....

Anytime sex is in a marriage and it is not between a husband and a wife, there are negative consequences.  The compare game starts, self satisfaction happens, and lust creeps in.  All of these things keep spouses from fully enjoying each other.

Consider this Scripture from Hebrews 13:4-Marriage should be respected by all, and the marriage bed kept undefiled, because God will judge immoral people and adulterers.

The Greek word for undefiled is defined as pure or unsoiled.

Our marriage bed is not pure when we bring anything other than our love and enjoyment of our spouse to it.  Yes, God allows for spouses to have fun and be creative.  But that is to be based on the enjoyment and connection of each other, not ideas seen or read in pornography.  If the ideas are from pornography, then they are not pure {undefiled}.

Let me say this with an open and honest heart - If you need any type of pornography to "get you in the mood" then something is not right in your marriage.

***As a woman, I can tell you that women do not want to be seen as objects.  We want to be seen for our minds, hearts, creativity, passions, etc.  However, when we are engaged in any type of pornography that is exactly what we are deducing ourselves to.***

Lastly, let me pour my heart out into our children.  My heart aches for children who are not afforded purity.  Please, please, please monitor what your children are watching, reading, and listening to.  Be an example to them.  Allow them to honestly ask questions about sex and then tell them the truth...that God created it and it is absolutely wonderful BUT it is only for a husband and a wife.  Tell them the truth about pornography.  A pure heart set right with God is a heart full of peace and joy.

Sex wasn't created for entertainment.  God created it to be more than beautiful and in the confines of a marital relationship only.

It is not too late to create sexual purity in your marriage and in your home. 

Praying for hearts and marriages to return to purity and joy-